07 Apr Be Honest Part 2
We’ve all done it. Sometimes we tell ourselves certain things to prevent our egos from being damaged by the truth. Things like: “I’m not fat, I’m just big boned”; or “all men are cheaters”; or “you have to have money to get a good girl”; or “you have to kiss ass to get ahead”.
In the short term these thoughts may protect our ego from being hurt but in the long term they do much more damage. Remember, in Be Honest Part 1, I wrote: “be honest about your weakness. Don’t let your ego rob you of the opportunity you deserve.”
So how do you do it? How do you be honest?
The answer, stillness. Allow yourself to sit quietly by yourself without any judgement. This time is just for you not anyone else. Ask yourself the question, what’ s really going on? or what’s really going on that I don’t want to admit?
Although the answers that you come up with may not feel good, recognize that it’s not about beating yourself up. It’s simply allowing the truth to come forward from a place of quiet realization.
Picking on the excuses I mentioned before maybe you sit quietly and think: “actually, I’m not big boned, I am over weight” or “I’m scared to put myself out there for another man/woman to hurt me” or “I’m embarrassed by how much money I make” or “I am too terrified to speak up at work”.
Honestly, having done this with literally thousands of people I’ve discovered that without the truth it makes it extremely difficult to change. And I’ve seen the difference between those who keep making excuses and those who own the truth. No bullshit, the difference is staggering.
Once the realization happens it makes it much easier to move on to the next step which is…what prevents?
It’s a critical question that I ask all of my clients, what is preventing you from getting what you want?
- “I don’t like going to the gym,
- “dieting separates me from my friends”
- “I don’t want to eat salads all day
- instead of going to the gym, try exercising at home or hiking, or something fun
- find a work out partner or get a trainer
- what other fun things can you do with your friends besides eating
- talk to a nutritionist about other options besides salads.